I don't comment on the sh*t you eat, don't comment on what I eat

I don't know if this just happens to me or if this is something that happens to others who eat (mostly) healthy and are fit.

I take my lunch to work 99.9% of the time and I usually take my lunch break around the same time.  This means that the same people are in the lunch room with me.  Some of these people feel that it's appropriate or fun or something to comment on what I eat.  I get the "Eating healthy today?"  or "Oh...that's not on your diet" or, well, various other comments most of the time.

Sometimes when I'm at somebodies house and sweets are around and I ask if I can have one, I get the comment "That's not part of your diet."

These comments are not made lightly, there is a bit of a mean under tone to them.

Here's the thing, I eat relatively healthy.  I made the decision November 2009 to change my eating habits in order to be healthy. I did not set out to lose weight, I didn't really have a need for that. I decided a lifestyle change was in order (don't worry a post about that is coming soon).  I went from eating chips and drinking soda almost every single day to only eating that stuff once a month (as far as soda is concerned) and a couple times a month (as far as chips are concerned).  I eat salad 3 times a week, normally.  This is mostly out of convenience than anything else.  Sure, I like it. If I didn't I would eat it. But it's also cheap and healthy.

I tend not to talk about my eating habits with most people. I know they don't care and some of the changes I've made aren't for them.   I certainly don't talk to those who comment about my food choices about it, unless asked.

So why these people feel the need to comment on what I eat, is beyond me.  I don't like it. It makes me mad. One of the ladies that does this is extremely over-weight and doesn't eat healthy.  I'm thin and eat healthy. When she comments on my food, I feel like looking at hers and saying "Are you going to eat that? I don't think you need it" just to be mean (but I never will). I don't care what she eats, that's her decision, her body, her life. I don't feel it's any of my business.  Yet, she feels the need to comment on mine.  Go figure.

Another thing that happens to me a lot is that people tell me I can "afford" to eat something.  I love sweets, love chocolate and candy.  Part of my lifestyle change was to limit that. Some months I do awesome, some months I don't do so well.  When I'm offered candy and sweets I try to resist. Normally when I resist, people tell me to eat it and that I can afford to eat it and that it's not going to hurt me and that I need it.  Well, I get angry. I usually just laugh it off but inside I'm pissed.  If I ate all the candy and sweets I wanted to, I would be over-weight.  Part of why I'm thin is because I don't eat all that (ok..and I workout).

I really, really just don't understand why my weight and what I eat has to be the topic of conversation with people that I'm not friends with. It's really none of their concern.  All these people know I work out and they see me eat a lot, so it's not like they are concerned I'm not eating or have an eating disorder or am unhealthy about it.

The thing is, they feel it's ok to comment on my weight and my eating habits, however if I decided to start commenting on the eating habits and the weight of people who were over-weight, they would get upset with me and I would be "mean".  Yet when they do it, they don't see it as being mean.

I'm tired of it. I'm not sure how much longer I can keep my mouth shut.

Why is it ok for people to comment on the weight of those who are thin but it's not ok to comment on the weight of those who are overweight?  Ok..stepping off the soap box now.